If you play tennis, you’ll resonate with what I’m sharing. If you haven’t played, these tips would be fun. In a competitive match, tennis requires your full attention. It’s a technical sport. It involves strategy, mental fitness, and physical strength.
- Love for the game – why do you play? At a recreational level, matches can still be competitive, and getting discouraged is easy. Focus on why you’re playing, not just the results.
- In the game of life – Know your why. That would carry you through the hard times.
- Do you want to build a family with children? Do you want lasting love? Coming home and waking up next to your love.
- Practice makes perfect – day by day. You will get better. Put in the work and trust the process.
- Focus on things we can control. Focus on what you can do better and what you have control over. Don’t focus on results day in and day out. Stick with the process. Trust the process.
- After a breakup, we tend to be discouraged and not want to date anymore. There are plenty of good reasons why we want to dwell on sadness and loss. But that won’t get you closer to meeting the right man.
- Like in tennis, we can lose games and get so beaten down by it. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We can make moves and improve. Even within a game, fighting for each point and making micro adjustments along the way.
- Strategy and position – being in the right place, at the right time can give you a winner. Know where to stand, if it’s single or double. Or where to stand when you’re on offense and defense can help make or break your point.
- Like how you invest in tennis. Read up on dating, and invest in yourself. Put more effort into yourself, than your relationship.
- In dating, know that as a woman you don’t have to be on the offense. Be soft and let the man lead. If you’re traditional.
- If it’s not the right time for you and him. Let it be. Don’t overanalyze it. Don’t blame yourself or the situation. It just is.
- Go out to spots that would give you more chances at meeting the right man. 👨 Don’t expect to meet guys at places you’d want your future husband to hang out at. Or put yourself out there. On dating apps or through friends.
- Intensity and intentions – chase the ball, go after all the balls. Be early versus chasing it down.
- Like in dating, present yourself well and set yourself up for success. Get to know many men. And you’ll get to pick the guy. Verses not caring and not being in control of the situation.
- Be intentional with what you want. That will let you filter out the wrong men.
- Inner Narrative – in tennis, it’s easy to spiral when you’re losing. But Champions flight. It’s not over until it’s over. The same applies when you’re winning, don’t let yourself slack. Keep up the intensity. Play your best game. Don’t let other’s games influence you to be worst.
- Don’t limit yourself. If you’re winning against someone you’re used to losing to, don’t let your brain trick you to go back to the identity of a loser.
- Stay in the present moment. Play your best at each point.
- Same in life, have a champion’s mindset. Control your reality. Don’t let what’s happening impact you and take you away from your goals.